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alexperkins wrote:but it shouldnt really be tried full stop - it just means youve perhaps had enuff of your current partner and are ready for something new.

Variety is the spice of life Alex, I shall say no more .

I suppose I am lucky, as my wife admires the finer points of other women as much as, if not more than I do .

Ill take that and make heed on it Variety is definately the spice of life....its time to make it interesting

You are lucky!!

mk4 glx 1.6 wrote:

alexperkins wrote:but it shouldnt really be tried full stop - it just means youve perhaps had enuff of your current partner and are ready for something new.

Variety is the spice of life Alex, I shall say no more .

I suppose I am lucky, as my wife admires the finer points of other women as much as, if not more than I do .

My ex was like that!!!

alexperkins wrote:

mk4 glx 1.6 wrote:

Dee-vub wrote:Mouse, trust me mate you dont the 'I wish I could be in a relationship and still have others' kinda thing!

I disagree. Why not have the best of both worlds so to speak!.

I would never suggest being unfaithful behind someone's back, but it can actually be healthy for a relationship to admit to one another who you fancy, and even take things further. BUT your relationship with your partner needs to be extremely stable and committed, for you to even consider 'having your cake and eating it'.

Totally agree with you marc. Rather than just admire the menu, why not place an order and sample it!

That is definately something that cant be close do being done if your not in the worlds most stable relationship, but it shouldnt really be tried full stop - it just means youve perhaps had enuff of your current partner and are ready for something new.

I totally disagree with that im afraid.

Every lad in there head wants to have someone to go home and snuggle to but also have the 'freedom to go shag around anything you want' But i totally disagree that you can have both!!! If thats whats happening in a relationship then it ISNT stable! Yes there are so overly stable they wouldnt mind partners sleeping with others aslong as they both knew about etc and it was always talked about, but im sorry i couldnt do that! Could you imagine the one you love sleeping with someone else, to me thats the most horrible feeling in the entire world!!!

In my eyes....GENUINELY, and i mean genuinely....its one or the other! I am at very confused cross road, there is a girl i like and get on with really really well, but i know i wouldnt stay faithful.....i love having somone to cuddle up to in bed but i also love the one night stand thing too much

personally this whole one night stand thing is a load of tish to me. I mean, how can you enjoy it if your never gonna see them again, or their so drunk it means absolutely nothing anyway!? Never have and never will understand that lol

I think your right phil - it is either one or the other. I could never cheat on someone, or have someone cheat on me. It'd break my heart if i knew that was going on!

alexperkins wrote:personally this whole one night stand thing is a load of tish to me. I mean, how can you enjoy it if your never gonna see them again, or their so drunk it means absolutely nothing anyway!? Never have and never will understand that lol

I think your right phil - it is either one or the other. I could never cheat on someone, or have someone cheat on me. It'd break my heart if i knew that was going on!

I have cheated mate, and its horrible if you get caught....the reason i am not in a relationship just now, i would do it again! And i dont want to hurt someone again!

I wish I cheated on my ex ex. Found out (after i split up with her) on xmas eve after taking her our for dinner and stuff that she cheated on me later that night. A week later at new year my mate text me saying her friend (who was hot) was asking if i was single. Wish i said yes

I'm in two minds whether to pester the girl i like. If she really liked me she would of messaged me back. And if she is seeing someone now then I never had a chance probably

Dee-vub wrote:Every lad in there head wants to have someone to go home and snuggle to but also have the 'freedom to go shag around anything you want'

Not me, but then at 33 I would say my mentality has changed since I was 20 and I am defintely wiser for it. I'm not what you would call a 'lad' and I am thankfull of that.

Dee-vub wrote: they wouldnt mind partners sleeping with others aslong as they both knew about etc and it was always talked about, but im sorry i couldnt do that!

When you have been with a partner for 10 years plus, in general your sex life can either go completely downhill, or both of you work at it and find ways to keep things interesting. Have you never heard of a threesome?

Dee-vub wrote: Could you imagine the one you love sleeping with someone else, to me thats the most horrible feeling in the entire world!!!

Have all your girlfriends been virgins when you have met them then? It's ok for you to be unfaithfull and sleep around, yet they must be pure as the driven snow!

i have given up on women. I have decided im either gonna be celebate or A sexual, or are they the same thing......

Sorry to high jack this thread but...

Since splitting with my ex (2 years) nearly 3 months ago i aint really mad the effort with girls, i mean ive picked a few up but not rly been overly fussed about 'em.

Untill i meet this girl whilest down basildon, got a really well with her n she seemed really keen, even asking some bloke whos liked her for ages to get my number for her OWNED!

Well anyways ive been round her house twice n things were going well untill i decided i was gona go against my usual grain and not sleep with ehr straight away...

I told her that even though its not been long i dont wana rish into anything like having sex just leave it to the kissing n going out...

Now i aint heard from her for a day n she seems really distaant!!!

WTF!!! help me out!!!
I thought she would have liked the fact i didnt wana straight away!?

I'm definitely a believer in maturity changing people.

I never had a proper bf all the way through uni, had a lot of flings and really enjoyed going out drinking and meeting people, I only ever had 2 one night stands, which were pretty crap because as you said, you're both drunk and you will probably never seen each other again. Flings are fun, but theres always a point when you realise one of you is getting proper feelings but the other is just having a bit of fun, I'm been in both situations and its pretty crap either way.

Anyway, I'm now 23, been out of uni for a year and a half and live with Simon, who some of you have met. Everything is totally different with him than with any other guy before, we've made a little life together and its brilliant.

So my advice to you young'uns, theres absolutely no harm having some fun now, because you'll grow up and meet someone really special and suddenly you won't want to be out partying and trying to pull anymore. I didn't even notice it happening, just realised I hadn't been out clubbing in ages, these days I just go to the pub with Simon and a load of mates, get trashed and then fall into a cab back to the flat and its still great fun, just in a different way!

Back on topic ...

I met the girl I liked last night at my mates party. She told me she ain't seeing anyone and before I left I got her number. Here's hoping this will be a good year to me

Good man I also had some rather good luck with a young lady, but it wouldnt really be forum talk now would it haha!

women are long. im going celebate LOL

Well done Mouse, keep us posted!!

I've just started seeing someone as well that I found on Facebook, we were at school together for 3 years and didn't even speak which is the weirdest thing about it!!