lads perspective!!!!

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 10:48 am

I know this seems totally random for this website but I need help from a lads perspective and theres plenty of males on here lol.
So here it is.....
I tried to get rid of a boyfriend but I'm a chicken when it comes to talking to people and he's not getting the message he's totally not in to cars and totally into football which theres nothing wrong with but its just not my kinda guy. However he's madly in love with me and no matter what I do it doesnt put him off.
HELP.....please
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andybtsn · Post by **andybtsn** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 10:53 am

Send him a text!

MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 10:54 am

Hey,

Do anything, APART FROM say "I'll always love you". That line really gets on my man-jugs

Just say you aren't really compatible, and you aren't happy. Tell him you're happy to be mates and make sure you tell him there's no-one else replacing him yet. 'Cos that's just harsh.

Anyway, how long have you two been together?

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 10:56 am

andybtsn

Send him a text!

Cant do that is rotten lol.

Well its very complicated we went out with each other a long time ago for about 8 months then we;ve got back together about a month ago but it just aint working at all.
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david burton · Post by **david burton** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 10:58 am

It's never going to be easy - so stop being a chicken and tell him straight how it is. Get it over with. I don't reckon you've told him firmly enough yet!

There's no way of making it nice for him no matter what you do, so just let him know ASAP because that's the most honest thing you can do.

MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:00 am

There's always option B.

p*** him off until he doesn't like you anymore?

Keep letting him down or just showing no affection... That's a bit harsh though so i'd suggest just telling him outright that you only like him as a mate.

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:04 am

I am actually ashamed to say I have already done the harsh way of letting him down and showing no affection but it seems to have made him more desperate for me back.
If I go talk to him though I'll wuss out and say ok we'll give it another go I know I will cos I dont want to upset him.
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MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:07 am

Option 3:

The Traditional

Send him a letter. It sounds daft, but seriously, you can write down all your feelings and not be as harsh as in txt format. Write him a letter and send it first class telling him how you feel and how you didn't want to say it to his face because you didn't want to upset him.

It's not as cowardly as "Ur dumped" by text, and shows more thought and consideration for his feelings.

It's your best option.

Sp!k3y.

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:10 am

I never thought of that but there's just one catch I'll have to hand deliver it cos otherwise he'll guess when I ask him his address lol.
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MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:13 am

Where's the problem? Stick it through his letter box!

Seriously, it's the best way!

AshLeMacq · Post by **AshLeMacq** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:15 am

Jillwilson wrote:I never thought of that but there's just one catch I'll have to hand deliver it cos otherwise he'll guess when I ask him his address lol.
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haha you don't know his address? Serious then was it? :p.

In all seriousness, the letter sounds like a good idea but whatever you do just tell him straight, being told straight might be bad but it's a million times better than being made to look an idiot for a sustained period of time only for the outcome to be the same as it always was.

Just don't mess the poor lad about!

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:15 am

No your right I'll do it tonight hope there's no-one in though.
This topic probably makes me sound awful but I'm not I promise lol just in a dilema.
Thankyou though guys.
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MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:17 am

Christ I helped for once.. .i'm usually the one that makes it all hit the fan :S

Glad I could help

AshLeMacq · Post by **AshLeMacq** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:18 am

Jillwilson wrote:No your right I'll do it tonight hope there's no-one in though.
This topic probably makes me sound awful but I'm not I promise lol just in a dilema.
Thankyou though guys.
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We've all been there, and while the advice is perfect, It's incredibly difficult to do.

I'd rather get dumped than dump that's for sure, it's much harder.

Good luck, for the night it will be pretty bad but you'll certainly feel a lot better than the guilt you'd feel if you messed with him so you're definately doing the right thing.

Fair play!

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 11:36 am

Thankyou see I knew it was a good idea asking u lot thankyou.
Now I just cant chicken out of it cos I dont want to mess him about poor lad he's sound but just not for me.
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