lads perspective!!!!

Post by **Josh_PoloGTi** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 1:17 pm

I just read this thread...

I agree that if you can't face telling him verbally, a nicely written letter is the next best thing.

Say stuff like you're really sorry and that there's not someone else etc...

Just don't tell him you'll always think of him or anything like that... Make it clear that it's final.

Here you go...

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Dear xxxx,

I'm not sure how to put this, but things are not working out between us and I think it would be best if we stopped seeing each other.

I'm sorry that I haven't been able to tell you to your face, but I'm not good with this kind of situation and I find it easier to write my feelings down.

I've been thinking about this for a couple of weeks now, so I have made my mind up. Just so you know, there's no one else involved... I wouldn't do that to you.

Really sorry.

Jill x

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Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 1:21 pm

That brill thankyou Josh.
x

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 1:49 pm

Well the letter seemed my perfect opportunity to let him down gently but
he's fired another text at me saying;

'we've not seen each other much this week and ive come to realise just how much I love you and miss u. I want to try and get into the stuff u do so I can spend more time with u please Jill can we talk tonight'

So do u think I'll have to speak to him face to face now??
x

AshLeMacq · Post by **AshLeMacq** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 1:55 pm

Probably a good idea but it sounds like it would be very tough.

Fact is regardless of the situation face to face is always best in the end but if you just can't face it then the letter will have to do but I'd push for telling him to his face.

PhilGTi · Post by **PhilGTi** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 1:56 pm

Jill get him to retrim my seats for me first, pleeeeeeeeeeeeease!! haha!!

No, seriously though.. If my GF felt the way you do id want to know honestly the way she was feeling. Dont feel so guilty, you might not think he will get over it well, but i think you will be supprised! I think the best idea would be to go for a coffee or something with him. I would be really disapointed in my girlffriend if she felt she couldnt tell me that after all the time we have been going out.

Just whatever you do, dont fall for the whole soppy act that he will put on when you tell him, make sure you pay for your own drink and sit across from him so that he knows you mean business.

Phill.

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:03 pm

dont panic phill its not the lad that retrims seats I left him before I started with this one kinda on the rebound I suppose.
but u can still get your seats done cheap.
I know I'll come to bits in front on him and just say ok so not to hurt him.
x

PhilGTi · Post by **PhilGTi** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:08 pm

Hmmm, how long have you been going out with him for by the way??

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:12 pm

Read the posts lol.
I've only bin with him a month or more however we were together before for a while.

MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:16 pm

Looks to me like text is the only solution now. He's being pushy so you need to end it now to avoid stringing him along. If you leave him hanging in the time it takes to write and post the letter it will make it harder.

Text him now and let us know how it goes.

PhilGTi · Post by **PhilGTi** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:17 pm

Jillwilson wrote:Read the posts lol.
I've only bin with him a month or more however we were together before for a while.

A month or so, just f*****g tell him its over!! Quick text or phone call, it might sound harsh but if you are not arsed about being friends with him just say you found someone else, that way he will hate you for it for a while and will make it easy to break it off...

phill.

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:22 pm

what do I text back though????

AshLeMacq · Post by **AshLeMacq** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:24 pm

Jillwilson wrote:what do I text back though????

"I don't want to see you any more"

Simple as.

Although as far as I'm concerned if you do that you're a coward

or however you spell it.

A bloke would get totally slated for that and rightly so haha.

PhilGTi · Post by **PhilGTi** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:25 pm

"I don't think that its a good idea to see each other, im not strong enough to end this in person because i feel too harsh! Things are too intense and I dont think i could deal with a full on relationship like this. Its not about you its just that when im with someone it makes me feel insecure and I dont want to."

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:27 pm

Your right so I need to tell him but how can I text him to tell him I want to speak to him but also indicates the fact that I dont want him.
x

PhilGTi · Post by **PhilGTi** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:31 pm

Why not tell him in a text that its over, but also indicate to him that you would like to have a chat sometimes to show there are no hard feelings between the two of you and that you only broke up because you want to be single...