lads perspective!!!!

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:36 pm

Right I'll let you know what happens.
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MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:37 pm

He said he loves you... after a month, I doubt he really does, he just fancies the arse off you.

It's harder after two years trust me... I got over that quick enough though.

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 2:41 pm

Its because I was the first person he was ever with and then I left him after a big argument and then when we got back together this time he kinda carried it on as if nothing had ever happened.
But I know what your saying he's tapped lol.
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Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:02 pm

well its fair to say that didnt go down well but at least I dont have to go round and see him god I feel awful but yet I feel better for getting it over with.x

MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:05 pm

What did you say?

What are his replies?

I bet he's devastated but I know i'd rather be told out right than be messed around for days... you did the right thing!

If you need a chat, you know where we all are

heh it's like having a younger sister... actually it isn't... i'll get my coat

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:12 pm

What did you say?

I told him that we needed to chat about stuff thats gone on because I'd been thinking about things, but it wasnt going to be easy.

What are his replies?

I am not laughing I know wot this means. U've hardly given us a chance. So if this is u breaking up with me then thats it but u wont find any1 who will luv u as much as me, you've really hurt me.

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PhilGTi · Post by **PhilGTi** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:15 pm

There has got to be more ingredience in the mixture then just love to make a relationship... fact is he probably doesnt even know what love really is. He is obviously going to always have a soft spot for you because you where his first but i think he is mistaking that for love. At the end of the day its no good having nothing in common with the person you are going out with or 6months down the line you will wish you had ended it sooner!

Phill.

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:19 pm

Your right I was madly in love with the lad that trims cars and we had everything in common thats why I got back with the lad I've just left after finishing it with richard because I was so hurt so decided it was better to be with someon opposite to you however I've worked out that that really isnt the case.
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MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:30 pm

Well played...

(No that's not sarcasm, that was really well played)

You made a good choice... I was with someone for two years and I was almost glad to get rid (The first couple of days after was hell) I realised she was crap and was glad for a fresh start.

I've now been with Fran for 8 months, and it's great. Never been happier.

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:32 pm

Is fran opposite or similar to you???
and was the one u wanted to leave to same.
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PhilGTi · Post by **PhilGTi** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:33 pm

I've been seeing someone for just over a year now, first proper relationship, before hand i was a one night stand man...

Jillwilson · Post by **Jillwilson** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:37 pm

I've been seeing someone for just over a year now, first proper relationship, before hand i was a one night stand man...

Oh phill thats really sweet.
Does she have the same interests as you?
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MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:39 pm

Fran is kinda different:

I like loud hard dance, DJ'ing and getting drunk, talking about cars non-stop and messing about on the laptop...

She studies Law at Lincoln Uni, likes reading and is just more grown-up than me...

We share a lot of interests though even though we are different people. We both like going shopping, walking along the seafront, going for a spin in her pug 106 (I'll get her Dubbed one day

)...

So even though we are quite different people we never argue (Not proper arguements) and it's pretty cool...

MadManMike · Post by **MadManMike** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:42 pm

By the way, the ex was a fat control freak that I now hate.

I could never go out with mates without paying for it later. As soon as I got back in there'd be a full scale riot.

Glad to get rid to be honest.

We had NOTHING in common either, she had no friends or hobbies, so clung on to me when I have a few close mates and LOADS of interests (Trials riding, cars, music, web design...)

As a result I lost mates and never did anything I enjoyed...

good riddance!

PhilGTi · Post by **PhilGTi** » Wed Aug 17, 2005 3:46 pm

I find that if you share some importand things together its cool to have some different ones. For example:

We both really like Indie style music, ie Coldplay, Bloc Party, Kings of Leon, Oasis etc, but i like a bit of oldschool HipHop and she likes stuff like Faithless so we can both have our own sence of music style but enjoy Indie together.

We are both doing similar courses @ uni, im doin Multimedia Design and she is doing Art so when i start talking about photography she isnt just sitting there thinking f**k sake, will he shut the f**k up? But at the same time we dont do exactly the same thing, parhaps thats good because things can get competitive and people fall out!

Going out wise we both like a night out at a cool bar rather then at a night club full of f*****g radgies! She doesnt drink but im the kind of person who just gets chatty after drinks, i dont act like a t**t so we jell well when out.

We both have our own little interests also, she is into Yoga and stuff and i am into Cars. That means that if we both have a few days off from each other we can spend time doing what we wanna do and then both enjoy time alone. I think its quite important to have things that are just for yourself and then that way you can both have something todo when not with each other.

This way i find things dont get boring, like it would be if i loved cars and she loved cars. Then all we would do is talk about cars 24/7 and end up getting sick.