Anybody good at this kind of thing!?

CraigMK4 · Post by **CraigMK4** » Thu Sep 13, 2007 8:18 pm

I've been with my girlfriend two years, we recently had a falling out, and long story short - it ended with her very drunken best friend planting one right on me after telling me she's liked me for ages. I spoke to her friend the day after and she said she meant, and remembered everything. i couldnt keep this from my girlfriend as we're very honest with eachother, and as you can imagine it f****d her up pretty bad. Now her friends denying everything and calling me a liar. Even worse than that, she believes her friend and is breaking up with me. Any ideas what i should do? I'm really stuck for ideas and i hope one of you guys can help me!!! btw got my alloys sorted siiiick!

Si_GTi · Post by **Si_GTi** » Thu Sep 13, 2007 9:24 pm

I've got no advice for you mate but had to giggle when I saw how you ended your post, with "oh yes, by the way my alloys are ace"

Chin up mate!

Cheers

Rupy · Post by **Rupy** » Thu Sep 13, 2007 9:32 pm

Tough one mate...I've been with my missus 2 years aswell and we're going through a rough patch...diffucult to deal with the idea of breaking up after 2 years isn;t it. Fingers crossed it works out for you and her.

Just talk to her in a calm fashion...tell her from the off you don't wana argue and if she raises her voice you'll hang up. That works for me and my missus. Then you can get your point across.

ModifiedMadness · Post by **ModifiedMadness** » Thu Sep 13, 2007 9:37 pm

Just tell her that if you initiated it you wouldn't have admitted it.

You felt she ought to know because her mate kissed you even though she knows you're taken.

If she doesn't believe you then is she really worth it?

CraigMK4 · Post by **CraigMK4** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 12:02 am

Yeh thanks alot guys, that all really helps! I was worried noone would reply, but thats spot on, and thanks for understanding

Tim_GTi · Post by **Tim_GTi** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 12:31 am

talk to the friend, get her to confess and record the conversation!!

Gra-GT · Post by **Gra-GT** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 10:11 am

Tim_GTi wrote:talk to the friend, get her to confess and record the conversation!!

I've never understood why you don't hear of this being done more. I mean this has got to be the best way to prove something ever. You always see stuff like this on TV (soaps and crap like that), and I'm always saying "why don't you use a tape recorder you numpty!"

But yeah, I feel for you mate. All you can really do is explain the truth to her, and if she doesn't believe you, then maybe she isn't the one for you without any trust. Sorry if that sounds harsh

CraigMK4 · Post by **CraigMK4** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 10:19 am

Nah that doesnt sound harsh at all, i guess this whole thing may be a reality check tbh. Deffo gonna try that recording thing though, it does seem like the only way!

Tim_GTi · Post by **Tim_GTi** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 11:56 am

CraigMK4 wrote:Nah that doesnt sound harsh at all, i guess this whole thing may be a reality check tbh. Deffo gonna try that recording thing though, it does seem like the only way!

yeh man do it, let us know how you get on, hope it goes well

Chally_Rai · Post by **Chally_Rai** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 12:49 pm

I dont like this friend at all! not one bit!

I mean she can't tell her mate (your gf) that its true, because that will be the end of them as friends, thats something you just cannot do, try it on with your best mates boyfriend...makes my stomach churn...so by telling your girlfriend you did do the right thing, I mean I know I wouldnt have been able to keep that from anyone...but she really wasnt going to admit it was she? which makes you the liar.

If i was your girlfriend I wouldnt have a clue what to think, depending on my realtionship with my friend, but if shes always been a good one and this is right out of the blue, and she convinced me you were lying, then i expect id be dumping you too...EVIL FRIEND...eurgh, how she can watch you too break up over it is beyond me, if she had an conciounce (i hate trying to spell that word...tom? lol) then she'd have to tell the truth and deal with it. but she evidently hasnt.

To let her break you two up is really not very fair....and i think the tape idea is fantastic! I mean if her friend has been really good to her in the past ya de da, then you cant blame her for having to believe her, any sensible girl puts her friends first, and shes probably telling your girlfriend how blind she is and how horrible you are for making this all up, and no girl likes to think she being walked over! which leaves her no option but to finsih with you... so when the truth is out, just try not to hold too much against your girl for doubting you, shes in a horrible mess and its not her fault...

can i second the whole, let us know how the tape thing works?hehe tape!

mk4 glx 1.6 · Post by **mk4 glx 1.6** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 2:05 pm

If the entrapment doesn't work and you g/f doesn't take you back, look on the bright side, at least you know where to get your oats

ModifiedMadness · Post by **ModifiedMadness** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 3:58 pm

I believe it's spelt 'conscience' Rach

CraigMK4 · Post by **CraigMK4** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 6:48 pm

Thanks again i really appreciate all your advice. I spent the day with her today, she seems to think her friend is lying but isn't 100%... all that matters is now i'm single because of it, wonder how her 'best friend' will react when she hears the news?

Bryony84 · Post by **Bryony84** » Fri Sep 14, 2007 7:42 pm

Her friend is really harsh, although if she actually is a good friend, hopefully she'll see that your gf/ex is upset and come clean.

Not the same thing, but when I split up with my ex, my best friend went for a night out with him and ended up getting drunk, kissing him and staying round his. She didn't tell me for quite a long time because she thought I'd hate her (in actual fact I was too shocked to be angry), but in the end she told me because she couldn't keep it from me. As it turned out, I was just really surprised and a bit pissed off that she did it despite me telling her what a jerk he was, but I was pleased she'd told me.

I really hope this friend tells your gf/ex the truth, if she's a good person, she will, but obviously I don't know her! Chin up though, these things have a habit of sorting themselves out eventually!